Happy Friday, hope you’re all having a great week and you’re ready for the weekend! Look at me reviewing for the second Friday in a row! When did I get this organised?! I’ve decided, that i’m going to try and review her on a Friday (not every Friday) and on The Reading Closet on a Monday, that way I can sprinkle you with bookish love before and after the weekend – then read the rest of the weekday evenings away! Sounds like a plan right?
I’m not sure that I mentioned my new years bookish resolution, well one of them, but i’m going to tell you again anyways! Last year, I realised that I read books that mainly came from male authors, not that there is anything wrong with that, but I wanted to change that and read more books – fiction and non – fiction – from female authors. This is the space I’ll use to review / discuss those books. If anyone could think of a quirky hashtag for that it’d be awesome! Anyways, last Friday, I shared my review of Great Small Things by Jodi Picoult, that really hit me in and I absolutely recommend you read it.
This week’s Friday review is that off Nobody’s Victim by Carrie Goldberg… incase you weren’t aware from the title. Carrie A. Goldberg is a Brooklyn based attorney, who specializes in sexual privacy violations particularly revenge porn and online abuse – she practically self taught herself the legislations around these violations, she’s basically a warrior of law and an absolute inspiration. Carrie represents Lucia Evans and Paz de la Huerta, alleged victims of the film producer Harvey Weinstein.
Nobody’s Victim is an unflinching look at a hidden world most people don’t know exists—one of stalking, blackmail, and sexual violence, online and off—and the incredible story of how one lawyer, determined to fight back, turned her own hell into a revolution.
Riveting and an essential timely conversation-starter, Nobody’s Victim invites readers to join Carrie on the front lines of the war against sexual violence and privacy violations as she fights for revenge porn and sextortion laws, uncovers major Title IX violations, and sues the hell out of tech companies, schools, and powerful sexual predators. Her battleground is the courtroom; her crusade is to transform clients from victims into warriors.
In gripping detail, Carrie shares the diabolical ways her clients are attacked and how she, through her unique combination of advocacy, badass relentlessness, risk-taking, and client-empowerment, pursues justice for them all. There are stories about a woman whose ex-boyfriend made fake bomb threats in her name and caused a national panic; a fifteen-year-old girl who was sexually assaulted on school grounds and then suspended when she reported the attack; and a man whose ex-boyfriend used a dating app to send more than 1,200 men to ex’s home and work for sex. With breath-taking honesty, Carrie also shares her own shattering story about why she began her work and the uphill battle of building a business.
While her clients are a diverse group—from every gender, sexual orientation, age, class, race, religion, occupation, and background—the offenders are not. Deeply personal yet achingly universal, Nobody’s Victim is a bold and much-needed analysis of victim protection in the era of the Internet. This book is an urgent warning of a coming crisis, a predictor of imminent danger, and a weapon to take back control and protect ourselves—both online and off.
“These offenders want to dominate, manipulate and punish their victims. I refuse to let them win. And all of us have the power to fight back. We don’t have to be victims. We can be the army to take these motherfuckers down.”
That quote is one of the reasons that Carrie has become one of my inspirational women, she takes no prisoners and she is an complete badass, she taught her self this type of law, talk about passion and commitment! Through the pages of Nobody’s Victim we learn about Carrie’s past and what brought her to opening a law firm in the first place. The whole of this book is an emotionally raw eye – opener, one where we are thrown in to the dark world of stalking, brutal violence and fear, most of the cases within this book has technology and online services involved – never again will I be so naïve to think that just because my Facebook may be private that the information put there can’t be found elsewhere. Even thinking about the individual experiences told within these pages, I’m still angry. I’m angry that these men (because in this book the psychos, stalkers, pervs and trolls, are men) for taking away the freedom of these people, not everyone is lucky enough to have a support network and means to get this sort of help, it just makes me angry. It also breaks my heart that some of the cases flecked amongst the chapters involve the loss of life, where people have taken their life out of pure desperation and fear. Their voices, as well as the ones of the warriors, need to be heard, they need to be used as a warning and Carrie has not only given them their voices back to do so, but also this platform to educate others.
Not only does Nobody’s Victim share details of stories by those who have experienced stalking, sextortion and revenge porn, but it also teaches the reader a bit about the laws that both protect the victim, and ones that hinder their justice. For example, a law in America that allows the distribution of online porn, also protects the distributer of revenge porn, allows people to create fake dating profiles that send 1200 people to a victim’s house with dark intentions and also allows trolling behaviour to be legal – how is this right? When will this type of legislation be overturned? While this is still allowed, the number of these types of attacks will continue to ruin people’s lives, kill people and justice will not be served.
Again, I have to applaud Carrie, she clawed herself out of a depressive hole after experiencing some of these aspects of violence herself, she created a platform for everyone to fight against their abuser, attacker, stalker etc. While reading Nobody’s Victim, her passion and fight shines through. She writes this book with such a sensitivity, not sharing deeply triggering type details but it’s still hard-hitting, raw and anger inducing. Carrie sprinkles cases, statistics, laws through the book which provides the reader with knowledge and tools to help if they find themselves in that type of situation. At the end of the book, there is a list of supports available to those who are experiencing stalking, feeling suicidal etc. Nobody’s Victim is a gem of a non-fiction because of what it stands for, such a necessary read and I urge you to read it!
Thanks for visiting and reading my thoughts on Nobody’s Victim, you can find the purchasing links below, it’s a must read! If you’ve read it, what did you think?
Until next time,